Talking to kids about Russia’s invasion of Ukraine

It’s normal to feel anxious about the news emerging from Ukraine, and children can pick up on this too. So how can you reassure your child and explain what’s happening if they ask questions? There’s no ‘one way’ to go about it, and you know your child best but hopefully these tips will help.

Firstly, check in with yourself. If you’re feeling anxious it’s ok to say that you don’t have all the answers and to share your concerns with other adults, like grandparents, teachers and school counsellors, who can help you talk to your child.

Secondly, go at your child’s pace. If they ask you about what’s happening or seem scared or worried, ask your child what they’ve heard or what they’re worried about, rather than giving lots of information which may overwhelm them. Consider the language you use, and try to keep it age appropriate and reassuring. Let them know that they’re safe and the conflict is happening far away (maybe show them where Ukraine is in relation to Australia on a map). Acknowledge sadness for those who are being directly affected and suggest finding out ways to help. If your child has questions, consider asking them if they’d like to research the answers together with you, or tell them you’ll find out answers to their questions and let them know later.

It’s also a good idea to monitor what children see on TV and hear on the radio as much as you can, and limit discussing worrying details when children are around. Depending on the age of your child, resources like the ABC’s Behind The News can help to explain what’s in the news in a kid-friendly way – see https://www.abc.net.au/btn/newsbreak/btn-newsbreak-20220224/13769874 and https://www.abc.net.au/btn/features/upsetting-news/10500572 for examples. Watching these together and then talking about it can help children feel safer and know they can talk to you if they have questions.

If you’d like to talk about any of these tips or have any other concerns about your child, you can contact me via email Kerry.marshall@catholiccare.cg.org.au or phone 0488 468 056.

Kind regards

Kerry Marshall

Student and Family Counsellor